Super Woman: Heart Behind The Bars

Being a widow or having a husband in prison, it requires extensive psych analysis to understand which might be more painful for a wife. When the grieving period is over, a woman who lost her husband is generally supported by all her family and friends to reignite her will to live and move on with her life. On the other hand, when she is left behind by her life partner due to law enforcement, she finds it difficult to share the trauma with her near ones let alone be supported during such times. Having a husband in jail is such a social taboo across the world that the punishment is equally felt by the wrongdoer as well as his family. Especially the woman is left with no other option but to tap in her super woman like resilience and face the consequences bravely.

As a prisoner’s wife, you will be smashed with a wave of emotional, financial, social difficulties. But you should not let them sink you in the abyss of hopelessness. Take a deep breathe, sit down and think chronologically. In the beginning, you need to decide whether to stay put as a partner of a convicted person or to part ways and make a separate life for your own. It takes immeasurable mental strength to stand beside an acknowledged criminal but it takes all the strength of the super woman inside you to turn away from the love of your life. 

If you decide to stay, then you need to inculcate certain changes in your life to survive this difficult period. Beginning with, telling yourself that “you” did not commit the crime and so you deserved to be treated with respect and dignity like every other person. Hiding truth from children is never advisable. Though they appear to be fragile, but they are stronger than they look. Family should stay united and support each other to keep the head held high in society. Like a super woman, you need to take charge of every aspect of your family for their welfare.

Planning your finances properly and getting involved in every such task that your husband used to take care of should be the next step. Economic problems can only worsen this emotional state. During this course of survival when you will need to work the hardest like a super woman, you should make an attempt to keep his remembrance in the family. Pictures of happy times involving him can be framed and put across the room. You and your children should religiously write to the person behind bars to keep him a loving company and keep his hopes alive.

Though it might be difficult, but a super woman like wife should also cater for the life she can offer her husband when he comes back from such a difficult state. Constant communication and visits should be made so that the family can remain integrated and the anticipation of a better future is never lost.