When it comes to symbolism of
identity, which aspect do you think will top the list? As per me, it’s your
name. A woman taking up her husband’s name after marriage is the one of the
oldest and most common tradition found across several cultures. This change in
identity was considered so obvious that there hardly was any discussion
regarding it. Women were also more than happy to let go of their own family
name and lovingly merge with their new family. But in today’s era of super
woman like independent thinking, some ladies have started taking a step back
and analyse the pros and cons of giving up their own name for another.
Let us help you understand why
women allowed their name to be changed. May be understanding their chain of
thought can help you decide yours. The primary reason is being part of an age
old tradition. Women preferred to live up to this tradition as they couldn’t
find any major reason to defy it. It was felt that this action is a portrayal
of their super woman like commitment to the newly formed bond. As a convenience
to future, they thought that this will ensure that the children will have a
name which is not different from both their parents. And though little rare,
but some women didn’t like their maiden name so they preferred to change it.
Moving on to the reasons that
woman provide for sticking to their own family name and not giving it up. Some women
think that their family name is a crucial part of their identity, reputation
and the super woman like legacy that they want to create in their lifetime
which makes it difficult for them to part ways with it. Many found that it is
an unnecessary creation of hassle regarding managing contacts and it also comes
with complicated procedures of filling out forms. Some also said, it is because
of simple dislike of the husband’s surname!
After weighing both the sides you
can decide for yourself which way you want to go. If you are still confused
then here are some tips for taking the middle road. You can hyphenate by
picking the best parts of both the names. You can change it officially but keep
using your maiden name for daily use so that the change won’t really make much
difference. You can also be super woman like smart and keep your maiden name or
your husband’s surname as your middle name.
The base line remains, if your
super woman like guts relates fundamentally to your family name for identity
then you should not put it aside. However, most of the converters mentioned
that it made hardly any difference in their career.
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