Superwoman: Let’s Have A Marriage Not Turmoil

“Don’t eat that much, People are looking for slim girls now-a-days for marriage”.

“What have you done to your hair, in our family we don’t accept all this”.

“Wear some big dress, your tummy is out. I don’t want the guy’s family to see it”

These are some of the ‘getting accepted in the society’ advice we hear. Be Fit or else you can’t go out with everyone. Eat wisely or else it’ll be tough for you to get married. Don’t go out in sun or you’ll get tanned and again it’ll be a burden in way of marriage.  Don’t think anything out of the normal woman mind and kill your self esteem and that superwoman you deserve to be and the society will be happy with that.

Anything that you do or don’t do basically adds up to your marriage criteria and unfortunately even if someone does match the criteria of this getting married rulebook yet they need to pay some money to be accepted. Basically to be accepted in the society you need to modify yourself and be just a normal woman spending days and life in kitchen and within the set of rules of family tree. If by any chance you do decide to walk the paths of being a superwoman and achieve and be radical, you are committing a crime in the name of family pride. 

Why treat us as if we are some goods? We are humans too. No one has any right to sell us off to someone in the return of money. Why shouldn’t we be allowed to have a lifestyle of our own, if someone can’t accept us and respect us for what we are how can we trust that they’ll accept us once we modify. What is the need to be an attraction, aren’t we unique in our own ways already. You accept us to be fair, fit, social, simple and then you say “we want the special one for our son”, the irony. You take your time in selecting the best wife for your son by asking those relatives who will hardly show once or twice a month after marriage.

You look up for Stars and Planets, and here I’m glad that we don’t know the name of many stars or else those horoscopes would need a scientist to be able to read out. You talk about the bonding for seven generations at every marriage, but who remembers the past life? Why make marriage a chaos. Why still go against your kids, just in the name of arrange marriage. You do it to be respected in the family and meanwhile, kill those hopes, trust and believe one kid has for his parents. Why can’t you take marriage just an addition of family member?  Why make it a deal? You need to understand you’ll be served only till you are alive.

Let’s simplify marriage into a ceremony where two people meet and get married in the hope, that things will be all good with them and within them and with the people around them. Let’s not drag relatives, society, planets and stars into it. Accept love marriages with that old thought we all follow, “Whatever happens, happens for good.”